More Heartfelt advice

To be honest, I wasn't completely sure I was going to get a chance to write today's blog because I made an appointment to take a quick walk through Hell, and I wasn't sure what state of mind I would be after. But I made a commitment to write regular Friday blogs, and to give honest and heartfelt advice. So I do my best to live up to my commitments. To be straight up, my mind and heart isn't so into today, so if my advice, sucks, I apologize in advance.

Also, before I go further, last week, I made a confession, that opened me up to a vulnerable side, and a few people took the opportunity to make negative comments to me. I don't condone cheaters or cheating, I hate everything they stand for, and hate that part of me. I apologize to people reading this blog who maybe don't understand that I was attempting to be accountable for my mistakes.

That being said, lets go.

Marlie takes the times to ask:

What is the best way to convert a dishonest person to become honest?

In the last couple of hours, just today, I may have come to the harsh realization that this can't be done. Dishonesty must be a characteristic, as opposed to a habit, and once you are dishonest, it's something that appears you'll never shake.

I've known a few very dishonest people, and they are a disappointment. I've dedicated time and energy to see a better side to these people, but maybe there isn't one that exists. These people will cling to the excuse that they are just trying to have privacy, when in reality they use the veil of privacy to hide from their dishonest behavior. And heaven forbid you ever call them on it. They will play the victim. And all the while they will drag down the innocent and honest people with them. It's honestly not much different than a hopeless drunk dragging down the people that love them enough to stand beside them.

Normally in a blog like this, I would preach patience, and urge you to see the tremendous upside in a person, when encountering their dishonesty. And I'd ask you to consider their motives for dishonesty, but in the end, I'm enabling the liars by saying that.

Best advice, cut the liar out of your life. If the lie is harmful or hurtful, cut your loss that much quicker. If it's someone who is protecting themselves from CHEATING, or gambling, drinking or failing, it doesn't matter, that person has no respect for you when they lie, why should you waste your heart, your integrity, or your honest good feelings on them. They don't deserve it.

Most people who are dishonest and lie, are actually not being true to themselves far more than ever dishonest to anybody who can see through them. And yes I can see through the person who has been telling lies to me. And they don't deserve a spot in my life, or anyone else's.

I leaned on my best friend Mike for this question:

Given your blog on the current situation on Parliament Hill, and Stephane Dion's recent "heroics" as the presumed Prime Minister in waiting, how can anybody who pays attention to the Canadian economy have any faith in our country?

Thanks Mike, a great addition to my otherwise lacking blog. Dion is a boob. In fact, by the time May rolls around and he officially hands over the reigns of the party to his successor, I shudder to think about how much damage one idiot can do. Worst Liberal leader ever.

My advice to the "Coalition" would be for Jack Leyton to seize the opportunity and launch a full scale attack against the inept Liberals and increasingly arrogant Conservative Party, and attempt to move up to Opposition in the next election, almost certainly to be 2 years away.

The only thing I appreciated in the last week, was watching Stephen Harper shed his usual elite complex and actually sweat a little. But he's staring down a merry band of idiots in that coalition, and it does nothing productive for Canada's economy.

Finally Jill weighs in:

I suffer from a terrible case of seasonal depression, where I actually awake at night with panic attacks when planning family Christmas, and am always so down it takes a lot to get out of bed. What kind of advice can you offer?

They say vitamin D helps to compensate for the lack of summer sunlight, and will actually assist in lifting your spirits. I also have heard tanning in-doors at the salon will assist, and I've enjoyed noticeable effects in my life.

Try not to focus on Christmas as anything more than a celebration. Don't get stuck on the tasks at hand or the financial commitment of gift giving, and realize, Christmas is about family and people close to you coming together to celebrate the Season.

The people I've encountered with seasonal depression around this time of year, all confirm that it drastically turns around after New Years, when the days start stretching longer. So just count the days until then, and do anything necessary to get up in the morning and hopefully it will all work out.

Check back in a month and let me know if it's gotten better. Thanks for the question.

It's a cliched term to say that you've had the worst day of your life. I don't know if I have, I'm pretty sure that I've had one of the worst weeks of my life, and it's not work related (I love my new job), and it's not failure to acclimatize to the new city, I love it hear. My Karma is a little off for some seriously bad choices I've made, and to be honest with myself, I just feel like I would do anything to get back to my last "happy place". It takes a lot to be honest and put myself out there like this, and I hope that even the attacks last week to my person, and everything I've attempted to be, will still help to inspire others in some way. I'm being sappy and in some cases useless, but I do take pride in offering up honest and good advice.

So feel free to leave me comments and questions or e-mail them direct at irenedellaveres@yahoo.ca.